Long lasting well being is generated from within

By Personal Development Mag - May 19, 2022
Long lasting well being is generated from within

It is not possible for life to always taste as sweet as candy. Sometimes, when people feel like the world is just too heavy for them, they tend to look around and find individuals who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into their mind like bubbles from nowhere, they often think "How did that other person's life become so great" ? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life ? Then men and women take a pause and observe for a while, they figure out that maybe, that successful person started out by working on a place called "self".

So, how does one become genuinely happy ? Step 1 is to love yourself.

Some experts say that "loving means accepting" To love oneself means making a focus on personal development and the law of attraction and accepting that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.


Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When we are contented with the job we have, the way we look, with our families, our friends, our vehicle, the place we live in as well as all the things we now have - fact is we do know the answer to the question "how to be genuinely happy".


When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life it will not do you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.


Law of attraction and goal setting coaches will tell you that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person's life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.


How to be genuinely happy in spite all these ? Life coaches will tell you every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.



Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Would not it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself "Whew ! I got a point today. I am glad I gave it a shot.", instead of looking at it all blank and murmur "Geez, I did not even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won !" and then walk away.

Genuine happiness takes positive thinking and is not about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life does not always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy ? Every one has his own definition of wha we call "happiness". Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success.

So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You donít have to have the best things in this world. It is about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self "Oh, I'll do better next time", you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project "how to become genuinely happy". For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw a well grounded person that same question “how to become genuinely happy ?". They will be able to refer you to an acquaintance of theirs who strongly quotes - "Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life's aches and pain. But most of us don't know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. This is due to the fact that people just do not go on to become happy - they also become free."